Day 3

Today I've spent a lot of time talking with my friend Clara. She has a boyfriend but he is very controlling, constantly jealous or insulting. Clara needs freedom to do what she wants and to live her life. She wants to break up with him because she thinks she doesn't love him anymore. Nevertheless she does not want him to be hurt, wherefore, she is confused.

I wanted to help her so I've decided to read her a text which helped me when I did not know what to do with my ex Alex. I've read this text in Spanish so I will try to translate it and include it here on my virtual Diary:

Nobody, absolutely nobody has the right to run your life, not even your own parents. To grow as a person we must make our own decisions, we can make mistakes but we can also choose to amend them.

Every step, every path you decide to take, takes to a different direction and some paths are dead ends where we will have to turn back and go to other way.

It is very important to grow as a person, learn to say no even if you really want to say yes, that's one of the great challenges of life.

Nobody knows which action or decision made ​​you be in this situation, but that does not matter, it does not matter now, the important thing is to know how to get out, have the courage to get out of the hole and it is therefore essential to have strength and will.  Any person who makes you feel inferior, guilty, bad person and manipulate the situation based on your feelings, OUT OF YOUR LIFE, not good for you.  

We lengthen the inevitable, used to be happy depending on the ending of the day. We settle, and that is the problem today, because that mean that we could do better but do not look for it because of the comfort, or fear.  

We can't complain about the bad things that happen to us, at least not for those which we could remedy and we didn't.  But it's that raw, we learn the hard way of life, life gives us sulking over and over again, after kicking against the same wall for a long time, comes a day when you WAKE UP and decide that it is time to MOVE, you do not deserve to be like you are now, and only you can remedy it.

Change is hard, it costs us delve into the unknown because we prefer "a known evil is better than unknown good" what kind of stupid saying is that? Take risks, discover something new, live your life and if you ever get it wrong begin again.

Always consider what is the best for you, and that is not being selfish, that means being FREE, free to decide what you want in your life and even when you want, free to meet new people every day. Free to travel with your family and not have to keep track of the mobile, free to wear whatever you want, wear tight leggings or wear a neck to the navel if necessary, the true freedom is in the small details, and this means FREE TO  DISCOVER YOURSELF, to find your place in the world based on a long walk. 

The past is for learning from him, knowing which ways you have made wrong and to not take them back. Look back and smile, and if you cannot smile then do not even look back.

Let go of those issues that are not yours and guilt that you yourself have created and let them go, they are burdens that prevent us forward, drop them AND BREATHE THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE A NEW FRONT, AN UNCERTAIN FUTURE AND ON BLANK. YOU WRITE YOUR FUTURE. 

Do not let anyone cut you the wings and stop you fly high, because if you let them, you will never know until what height you had not been able to get, such wonderful views that you may have missed. FLY WITHOUT FEAR.